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I just had a conversation with a very good friend that stated how Father's Day seems to have a certain stigma attached to it that causes it to be a much different day than Mother's Day. For Mother's Day, we bankrupt our accounts, buy out all the flowers, leave the grocery store's shelves empty, and leave absolutely no room at any restaurant with trying to get reservations being a joke. But when it comes to Father's Day, those same sentiments don't seem to be shared.
I spent my Father's Day relaxing, reflecting, and in meditation before The Lord. I did, however, call and speak to my own father. We had a really great conversation and I was blessed to be able to share some things with him that I believe will change our relationship forever. It also made me appreciate more of the fact that he is still living and that I better take advantage of every waking moment that I can with him while I still have him on this earth.

What was interesting to me was that in both conversations, the thing that stands out the most about Father's Day, which is probably the same sentiments shared by many, is that it seems to draw out more hurt than anything else. We tend to think of all the birthdays missed, the games they didn't make it out to, the recitals we got excuses for, or them just flat out not being there at all for whatever reason. What I realized was the most important thing for me was to forgive, which many don't want to do because of the hurt that's been caused. We want them to know how much they hurt us and we want them to feel it just as much, if not more, than we feel. All that does is perpetuate a vicious cycle that will carry on for generations to come.

We must end and break the cycles that our fathers may have started and caused. We are not them and we all have a choice, a chance to choose who we really want to be in life as fathers and parents. If you really don't want to be like your father was, then make the choice today, walk in forgiveness towards your father, and treat your children better. Holding things against your father that you cannot change will only leave you feeling a gaping whole that will never be filled, and the very thing you try to avoid becoming is what you may wind up being.